I'm usually not a huge Honda fan, but I gave the 2009 Pilot a test drive. And well, I'm impressed. It has decent power, comfort, control, and amenities. The 3 rows of seating are all usable, and there is still enough room for an umbrella stroller, a couple small bags, a few bottles of wine, 4 adults, and 2 car seats (oh that's the Napa trip we're planning with cousins). There probably isn't enough room for all of us for an over night trip with the needed "kid care" items, but it's close.
Anyway, I'm still thinking with the deals that are available on the bigger Toyota Sequoia, I'd be better off going that route for a trip like the one we're planning. I guess for now we'll need to take the lavender minivan of the wives' grandma. AWESOME!